Within our culture of violence, normalizing sex buying as freedom begs another look


Panagiota Caralis


As millions of Ukrainian women and children are forced to flee their homes in hopes of surviving Russia’s war, they face another significant threat: men seeking to buy sex and the dangers of getting lured into the commercial sex trade and human trafficking.

The Associated Press has reported that in Poland’s refugee camps, while Polish men have offered to ‘help’ women and children, arrests have been made for the rape of a 19-year-old refugee in the shelter. Similarly in Berlin, police are using social media to warn women and children of accepting offers of overnight stays and have urged them to report anything suspicious.

We live in a time where people all over the world are experiencing a grim crisis, rendering them vulnerable – and at risk for exploitation. Here in the US, we seem oblivious to these risks. Individuals may believe they are against human trafficking and violence against women. Yet, as a society, we continue to embrace cultural practices that set the stage for exploitation. And as this series Philanthropy & the global sex industry is highlighting, there is a growing movement across the globe and in the US to fully legalize and normalize all aspects of the sex trade, including pimping and brothel-owning, as something being billed as an empowering line of work.

If we want to put a stop to exploitation, trafficking and sexual violence, then all of us need to lend our voices and our philanthropy to work to change current norms that encourage and accept the dehumanization of anyone.

Many are well-meaning in the desire to destigmatize prostitution/transactional sex, but if you look at this ‘industry’ in all its forms, online and on the streets wherever there are displaced peoples seeking safety and a better life, you don’t exactly hear language that sounds empowering or respectful. What message do you think is communicated when women are referred to as inanimate objects that can be purchased and used? This type of language diminishes and devalues women and trains listeners to view women in these objectified terms.

In many European, Latin American and Caribbean countries, interpersonal violence is considered a misdemeanour and not a serious crime. It was only in the 1980s that US laws against marital rape recognized men didn’t have the right to demand sex from their wives anytime they wanted. This mindset is still held in parts of the world where women are not allowed to vote, drive a car, get an education or defy their partners.

Recently, the Florida legislature and the Governor have spent a lot of time passing a law to forbid the teaching of alternative sexual orientations and the use of the word ‘gay’ in school curriculum. The ban on using these words was easily passed by the majority. There has been no similar concern or effort to address violence and the use of derogatory gender terms in the school curricula. By banning discussion on sex and gender and totally ignoring the need for discussion about gender-based violence, the lawmakers propagate attitudes that continue the discrimination and devaluation of human beings. Open discourse about the power of language should be part of the curricula in our schools.

Despite the recent #MeToo movement, society’s continued neglect of the roots of sexual violence remains, which is why we are still dealing with it. A pattern of personal and political silence has slowed the response to the issues. The repercussions for speaking out are part of the culture of silence which promotes the power inequality of victims. Normalization of sexual violence in the media and our institutions must be called out for what it is  –  a violation of human rights and an abuse of power.

A recent study in the Lancet revealed that more than a quarter (27 per cent) of women around the world, aged 15 to 49, have experienced interpersonal violence from a male intimate partner at least once in their lifetime. That is one in four women. The abuse starts young: 24 per cent of 15 to 19-year-olds in the US have experienced violence. The average age a child enters into the commercial sex trade is between 11 and 14 years old. LGBTQ people are nearly four times more likely than non-LGBTQ people to experience violent victimization, including rape, sexual assault and aggravated or simple assault. Health-related costs of rape, physical assault, stalking and homicide committed by perpetrators of intimate partner violence in the U.S. exceeds $5.8 billion each year. Of that amount, nearly $4.1 billion are for direct medical and mental health care services, and nearly $1.7 billion are for the indirect costs of lost productivity or wages. The impact of this violence on the next generation is significant since 50 per cent of men in the US who assault their female partners also assault their children: Over three million children witness interpersonal violence each year. Less is known about the costs of the commercial sex trade and human trafficking except that it is lucrative for its perpetrators, estimated by the International Labour Organization (as reported by Forbes) as a $150 billion dollar global business.

Not all of the commercial sex trade is human trafficking but the line between the two is blurry for all of the reasons described above and both groom and prey on vulnerable people and create societal harm. One thing that can be quantified is the impact on communities. Of the victims trafficked for sexual exploitation, 99 per cent are women and girls. In the US, the prevalence of forced first intercourse was 4 per cent with 25 per cent of those sexually active under the age of 14 years. Researchers are now linking these findings, as well as the high levels of child sexual abuse, to concerns in the transmission of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. Overall, the impact of these traumas lasts well beyond the short-term impact on the physical and mental health of the victims. In the long-term, there is a substantial social and economic cost to all of us.   

Global voices of women and human rights activists are calling for a unified response to this wave of violence against women, which requires more effective responses from the public and the government. We can no longer be desensitized to sexual violence and trivialize the impact it has on our communities. In the words of Martin Luther King ‘it is not the violence of the few that scares me, but the silence of the many.’ Reducing the violence and dehumanization of girls and women is a challenge for all of us.   

First, we need to recognize our own biases in a traditionally patriarchal system which seeks to control the power narrative around women, girls and LGBTQ roles in our society. Cultural practices which marginalize these groups can be harmful to their health and cause material differences, creating masculine and feminine stereotypes which hamper equal rights and propagate discrimination. Men need to listen to women’s stories and acknowledge their experiences. They need to lend their voices to create the content to change the narrative about sex and relationships.

And if you are part of this wing of the progressive movement that is taken in by the language of ‘personal choice’ and the effort to rebrand prostitution as ‘sex work’ that is empowering to women (which is sadly a deeply entrenched view in most women’s studies departments and is gaining momentum in global development), please go online and read all of the vile and debasing language used by the male sex buyers. This male demand for sex as a commodity to be taken, bought and sold on their own own patriarchal terms is what drives the commercial sex trade and makes it such a lucrative and growing global ‘industry’.

Please keep at the forefront of your mind how the sex trade in all its forms is part and parcel of the culture of patriarchal violence that has its roots in ancient household codes where women and children were seen as chattel men had the perogative to buy and sell and rape.

All the men who pose as volunteers as a ruse for ‘helping’ by buying sex and the related threat of human trafficking faced by Ukrainian women and children are terrible, but it’s really not that different from the ongoing threat of sexual violence that’s all around us – even here in the US. If we want to put a stop to exploitation, trafficking and sexual violence, then all of us need to lend our voices and our philanthropy to work to change current norms that encourage and accept the dehumanization of anyone.

Let’s not overuse the rhetoric of freedom in the face of something that – in reality – blurs together with the whole continuum of patriarchal violence that still is a norm around the world.

This article was adapted from In This Culture of Violence, We Are All to Blame.

Dr Panagiota Caralis, MD, JD, is a Professor at Miller School of Medicine, University of Miami and serves on the Dade State Attorney’s Task Force on Human Trafficking.

Comments (2)

connections game

While it's true that some women do engage in trafficking, I agree with Dr. Caralis that the real problem is the widespread culture of violence against women and girls that exists all across the world. The commercial sex trade is what drives the commercial sex trade and makes it such a lucrative and rising global 'business' because of the demand from men to treat sex as a commodity to be seized, bought, and sold on their own patriarchal terms.

Emily Jones

Yes there are women who participate in trafficking but i think Dr. Caralis’ main point is that what fuels the whole problem is male demand and this manifests in the whole culture of gender-based violence we see across the globe that preys on vulnerable people: “This male demand for sex as a commodity to be taken, bought and sold on their own own patriarchal terms is what drives the commercial sex trade and makes it such a lucrative and growing global ‘industry’.”


I disagree that human trafficking is patriarchal problem. Women also often are offenders, and use torture to rape boys and girls. You claim that LGBT people are more risk to human trafficking, well no wonder because Norwey Gay & Lesbian Association promote pedophile behaivor- they call themselves "boylovers" and have hidden forum available for registered users. What do you do to stop spreading illegal content by GitHub softwear MyBB??? GitHub is also responisble for creating leech services which allows download illegal content. Guess adress one of this leeches- London. Same adress have Internet Watch Foundation. As the most illegal content origin is from Russia & Ukranine (including self genareted content), offenedrs use western severs like OVH and Cloudflare to spread it in open internet, not dark web. And one thing -Internet Watch Foundation mention that they not ingerate in "normal adult content" but this "adult content" sometime is used as cover layers for pedophile content which need path -same urls address other servers.

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